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From Fear to Freedom: A Guide to Authenticity authenticity self-worth Jun 18, 2024

 "Our deepest Fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." – Marianne Williamson.

Fear can make us feel stuck. We don't try new things or share our true selves because we fear failure or judgment. But here's the truth: Fear is holding you back from b...

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Is It Possible to Overcome People-Pleasing? people pleasing people-pleasers Jun 16, 2024

The short answer is yes, you can overcome people-pleasing. As you work to overcome people-pleasing you will be challenged and you will become more confident.

Overcoming people-pleasing is challenging because doing things differently will make you feel scared and anxious–it goes against your instinc...

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The Secret Connection Between People-Pleasing and Your Emotions people pleasing people-pleasers perspective self-improvement Jun 12, 2024

Many years ago I was at a self-development conference and the speaker said, “The quality of your life will depend on the amount of uncertainty you can tolerate.”

That quote stuck with me. I attended the conference in the early days of grad school and I often thought about how my anxiety would go up...

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My husband changed after we moved in together ask me anything relationship advice Jun 10, 2024

Hello. My husband has not even had sex with me the last 6 weeks or barely even touches me unless I initiate it first. My love language is touch, I know his is acts or service and words of affirmation. I have talked to him about the lack of touch lately but he says he isn't that type of guy and he is...

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How Self-Reflection Will Help You Overcome People-Pleasing emotional health people pleasing perspective self-improvement Jun 09, 2024

Turn your overthinking into self-reflection and overcome your people-pleasing habit.

If you are a people-pleaser, one of the things you do is overthink. 

  • You think about what others think of you a lot.
  • You worry whether someone is upset with you a lot.
  • You ruminate on how you could have done s...
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Self-Criticism and How to Overcome It effective communication people pleasing people-pleasers May 31, 2024

Are you tired of constantly falling short of expectations, whether set by society or yourself? 

Do you find yourself criticizing your every move, appearance, or achievement? 

Have you noticed that this habit of self-criticism is affecting your relationships and overall well-being?

It's all too ea...

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