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Are You In a Blame Game? effective communication emotional health healthy relationships Feb 29, 2024

I’ve been thinking a lot about blame recently. 

I have a client who fights with his wife A LOT. And, neither one of them seems to be able to stop the fights.

I’ve pointed out to him that he blames her for nearly everything he’s feeling.

If she doesn’t like something...

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Why Do People Become People Pleasers? healthy relationships life lessons people pleasing self-improvement Aug 31, 2023

Many of us have been taught from a young age that being kind and considerate towards others is a virtue. While this is undoubtedly true, some people take this to an extreme and become people pleasers.

A people pleaser is someone who prioritizes the needs and desires of others above their own,...

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In a Long-Distance Relationship is Sex With Others Okay? ama ask me anything healthy relationships perspective relationship advice relationship tips relationships Aug 10, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My significant other and I live 2 hours away and are able to see each about twice a month. However because we aren’t in the same city he thinks it’s okay for him to go out & have sex with somebody else (he goes to “providers”). He thinks...

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6 Factors that Contribute to an Unhappy Marriage effective communication healthy relationships marriage relationship advice relationships Aug 10, 2023

Marriage is a sacred bond that brings two individuals together, promising love, companionship, and happiness. However, even the strongest marriages will experience periods of discontent and unhappiness. Understanding the key factors contributing to marital unhappiness is important for fostering...

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How do we fix our boring marriage? ama ask me anything healthy relationships marriage relationship tips self-improvement Aug 03, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband and I have been married for a while and it's starting to feel a bit boring. We are losing our spark. How can we fix this boring marriage?

--Losing Our Spark

Dear Losing Our Spark: Anything you do repeatedly is going to start to feel boring after a while. That's...

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How do I tell my husband he needs therapy? ama ask me anything effective communication healthy relationships marriage relationship tips relationships Jul 27, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband continually forgets things we have agreed on, has little motivation for doing household chores (but is totally happy to go do something impulsive that seems like fun for him), and can't seem to take my feelings into account before doing something he knows will upset me....

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