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Dear Dr. Julie: I haven't spoken to my best friend in a couple of years because before she was married she slept with my boyfriend. I haven't spoken to either of them since I found out. I miss my best friend and I want to be friends with her again but I can't forgive her for what...
Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me...
Have you ever wondered how to navigate the complexities of long-term relationships? In my latest video, I had the pleasure of speaking with Corinne Farago, a relationship and intimacy coach and author of The Turned On Couple: Your Path to Lasting Love, Passion, and Pleasure. Our conversation...
I received the following question from a community member:
Dear Dr. Julie, I feel inadequate most of the time. I graduated from high school in 1965. I've worked a variety of jobs, including 13 years with the federal government across three different agencies, and retired in 2002. I...
I’ve been thinking a lot about blame recently.
I have a client who fights with his wife A LOT. And, neither one of them seems to be able to stop the fights.
I’ve pointed out to him that he blames her for nearly everything he’s feeling.
If she doesn’t like something...
Many of us have been taught from a young age that being kind and considerate towards others is a virtue. While this is undoubtedly true, some people take this to an extreme and become people pleasers.
A people pleaser is someone who prioritizes the needs and desires of others above their own,...
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