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Recovering From Infidelity ama ask me anything relationship advice relationship tips toxic relationships Jul 13, 2024

Dear Dr. Julie: I discovered my husband had cheated on me with a (supposed) woman on the internet. He says she lives in Tennessee and nothing happened physically. As it turns out she was scamming him for money, which he sent to her. I can get over that part, it’s the things he texted...

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7 Signs You're a People-Pleaser authenticity people pleasing people-pleasers self-improvement self-worth Jul 10, 2024

 

As a psychologist, I often work with clients struggling in their relationships because of their habits of people-pleasing. This behavior, while well-intentioned, can actually do more harm than good in your relationships and personal well-being. 

Most people I work with didn't...

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9 Tips for Setting Better Boundaries boundaries people pleasing people-pleasers self-improvement Jul 03, 2024

 

As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk...

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What Happens If You Stop People-Pleasing? emotional health people pleasing people-pleasers Jun 29, 2024

As you work on changing your people-pleasing habit, a lot is going to change with you and your relationships. Most of it is going to be surprisingly good, because the catastrophes you assume will happen, won’t happen. However, some of what will happen will be hard to cope with. Let’s...

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How to Know if You Are Selfish: 5 Signs You're Selfish and 5 Signs You're Not emotional health people pleasing people-pleasers Jun 26, 2024

 

When it comes to relationships, there's often a tricky balance - taking care of your needs versus being there for your partner. How much self-care is too much? At what point does it cross into selfishness that could harm the relationship?

Why Selfishness Hurts Relationships

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The Importance of Self-Love and Self-Compassion self-improvement self-worth Jun 24, 2024

Self-love and self-compassion are essential components of healing and forgiveness. By prioritizing these practices, we honor our own worth and value, paving the way for a more fulfilling and balanced life. In this blog post, we will explore the significance of self-love and self-compassion and...

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