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Have you ever had one of those days when emotions seem to take over, making you feel out of control? Emotional dysregulation can deeply impact our daily lives and relationships, whether snapping at someone you love, feeling anxious or overwhelmed, or bottling up feelings until they burst....
Have you ever been told you are selfish when just trying to set a boundary? Do you worry that others think you're selfish? If you’re a people-pleaser, this label can feel like a nightmare—often enough to make you question if setting boundaries is even worth it.
But the truth is...
Have you ever had a conversation that left you feeling confused, guilty, or even questioning your own memory? Sometimes, people use certain behaviors to influence others in ways that might not be very honest or healthy. Recognizing these signs can help you protect your feelings, set boundaries,...
Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me...
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a sinking feeling, like something wasn’t right? Maybe you felt taken advantage of or manipulated but couldn't pinpoint why. This feeling can hit especially hard if you tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, trust easily, or avoid...
Dear Dr. Julie: Not sure if this is the right place for this question, but how do you help someone who doesn’t believe they need help? My adult daughter, who lives with me, has a mild intellectual disability, ADHD, and may have other genetic disorders we’re getting her tested...
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