Clicky

My Blog

Authentic Connections, Boundaries, and Relationships

What Happens If You Stop People-Pleasing? emotional health people pleasing people-pleasers Jun 29, 2024

As you work on changing your people-pleasing habit, a lot is going to change with you and your relationships. Most of it is going to be surprisingly good, because the catastrophes you assume will happen, won’t happen. However, some of what will happen will be hard to cope with. Let’s...

Continue Reading...
How to Know if You Are Selfish: 5 Signs You're Selfish and 5 Signs You're Not emotional health people pleasing people-pleasers Jun 26, 2024

 

When it comes to relationships, there's often a tricky balance - taking care of your needs versus being there for your partner. How much self-care is too much? At what point does it cross into selfishness that could harm the relationship?

Why Selfishness Hurts Relationships

Selfish...

Continue Reading...
How Self-Reflection Will Help You Overcome People-Pleasing emotional health people pleasing perspective self-improvement Jun 09, 2024

Turn your overthinking into self-reflection and overcome your people-pleasing habit.

If you are a people-pleaser, one of the things you do is overthink. 

  • You think about what others think of you a lot.
  • You worry whether someone is upset with you a lot.
  • You ruminate on how you could have...
Continue Reading...
Holding a Grudge vs Setting Boundaries boundaries effective communication emotional health perspective Apr 07, 2024

Recently, the teenage daughter of a client of mine accused her mother of holding a grudge against her grandmother (my client’s mother). My client had a difficult relationship with her mother and had, over the course of her therapy with me, set up various rules she enforced frequently...

Continue Reading...
Are You In a Blame Game? effective communication emotional health healthy relationships Feb 29, 2024

I’ve been thinking a lot about blame recently. 

I have a client who fights with his wife A LOT. And, neither one of them seems to be able to stop the fights.

I’ve pointed out to him that he blames her for nearly everything he’s feeling.

If she doesn’t like something...

Continue Reading...
Overcome What Is Holding You Back In Life emotional health life lessons limiting beliefs perspective self-improvement Jul 29, 2023

Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck? 

Do negative thoughts and feelings of not being “good enough” often lead your mind down a stressful path of self-doubt and low confidence? 

Did you know that almost all of us are plagued by self-limiting beliefs daily, keeping us from...

Continue Reading...
1 2 3

Disclaimer

When you buy products or services through links on my site or in my emails, I may earn a small affiliate commission. However, I only recommend products that I would use for myself and those I care about.  All videos, articles, and statements made by me (Dr. Julie Shafer) and/or published by me anywhere online are for information and educational purposes only. Because everyone’s situation is different, please consult the appropriate professional before taking action based on information from this site or other publications by Dr. Julie Shafer. Reliance on information contained on my site, emails, or other platforms (e.g., FaceBook, YouTube, Medium, etc.) is solely at your own risk.