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Many years ago I was at a self-development conference and the speaker said, “The quality of your life will depend on the amount of uncertainty you can tolerate.”
That quote stuck with me. I attended the conference in the early days of grad school and I often thought about how my...
Hello. My husband has not even had sex with me the last 6 weeks or barely even touches me unless I initiate it first. My love language is touch, I know his is acts or service and words of affirmation. I have talked to him about the lack of touch lately but he says he isn't that type of guy and he...
Turn your overthinking into self-reflection and overcome your people-pleasing habit.
If you are a people-pleaser, one of the things you do is overthink.
- You think about what others think of you a lot.
- You worry whether someone is upset with you a lot.
- You ruminate on how you could have...
Are you tired of constantly falling short of expectations, whether set by society or yourself?
Do you find yourself criticizing your every move, appearance, or achievement?
Have you noticed that this habit of self-criticism is affecting your relationships and overall well-being?
It's...
In a world where we often seek validation from others to feel good about ourselves, the journey towards self-acceptance and releasing the need for approval is crucial. How usually do we rely on others to affirm our worthiness, measuring our value by external standards?
The quest for...
I'm excited to share insights on a topic that's made a big difference in my life: setting boundaries. In a deep-dive conversation, I sat down with Melissa Wolak, an expert in boundary-setting.
Melissa highlighted that boundaries aren't just about saying no—they're a big yes to...
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