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You decline a request at work and spend the next few minutes at your desk going over everything you said wondering if it landed okay. You cancel plans with a friend and immediately follow up with a long explanation why you’re cancelling. You share an opinion, watch how the other person reacts, and s...
Do you have moments when things get tense and suddenly you just go blank? Someone says something that hurts, or asks for something you don’t want to give, or starts a conversation that makes your chest tighten. You open your mouth and…nothing comes out. Or, you agree to something you don’t want to a...
 If you have ever walked away from a conversation and thought, Why didn't I just say what I meant? you are not alone. A lot of smart, self-aware people find themselves doing things in relationships that they can't quite explain. They go silent when they need to speak up. They over-explain a simple r...
You’re calm, reasonable, and explaining your point clearly—so why does the argument keep getting worse? Why is it that the more you talk, the more you're talked out of your original point? The truth is, over-explaining doesn’t create understanding; it erases your power. Here’s how to stop doing it.
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