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Authentic Connections, Boundaries, and Relationships
You don't need to apologize for something you didn’t do, but you also don’t want to disconnect. Here's what to do when you and your partner see the same moment in completely different ways.
A client of mine, Tammy (not her real name), is nearing retirement as a healthcare provider. She's caring, sm...
We all love a good ending.
Not just in obvious stories, like books and movies, but in everywhere in life: in relationships, in arguments, and in the stories we tell ourselves. We want the dots connected, the characters explained, and the lose ends tied up. And, it's a bonus if the story ends in a w...
Dear Dr. Julie, How do you cope with ghosting and moving on when you were left with no apartment, no money, no car, no savings, and he took it all? The last text was December 2nd and I don't know how to survive this. I was in a committed relationship of 4 years, now I'm single.
--Totally Devastated...
Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me and lets me be chased. How ...
Have you ever wondered how to navigate the complexities of long-term relationships? In my latest video, I had the pleasure of speaking with Corinne Farago, a relationship and intimacy coach and author of The Turned On Couple: Your Path to Lasting Love, Passion, and Pleasure. Our conversation offered...
Good Evening Dr. Julie, My husband and I are currently separated. He wants the divorce I do not. We are working together on figuring out the property end of things, but how do I set the boundary of not singing the divorce papers as what I feel and want matters too.
--Dodging Divorce
Dear Dodging: ...
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