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Authentic Connections, Boundaries, and Relationships
Being nice and helping others should result in better relationships.
However, did you know that being overly nice or too helpful can disconnect you from those you want to be close to?
I'm not suggesting that you stop being kind, but if you find yourself constantly putting others' needs above...
As a people-pleaser, you may constantly prioritize others' needs above your own, often at the expense of your well-being. This pattern can lead to resentment, burnout, and strained relationships.
However, a powerful concept can help you strike a balance: loving detachment.
What is Loving...
Getting caught up in trying to be who others want you to be is easy. But deep down, being genuine is how to feel truly fulfilled. I want to share some insights on what it means to live authentically, overcome challenges, and take real steps just to be you while staying true to your core beliefs.
...Dear Dr. Julie: I discovered my husband had cheated on me with a (supposed) woman on the internet. He says she lives in Tennessee and nothing happened physically. As it turns out she was scamming him for money, which he sent to her. I can get over that part, it’s the things he texted...
As a psychologist, I often work with clients struggling in their relationships because of their habits of people-pleasing. This behavior, while well-intentioned, can actually do more harm than good in your relationships and personal well-being.
Most people I work with didn't...
As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk...
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