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9 Tips for Setting Better Boundaries boundaries people pleasing people-pleasers self-improvement Jul 03, 2024

 

As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk...

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Overcoming the Challenges of Setting Boundaries authenticity boundaries effective communication Jun 23, 2024

Setting boundaries is very important to maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your well-being. However, it can be particularly challenging in toxic relationships where the other person may react negatively or try to manipulate you into feeling guilty. Despite these difficulties,...

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Release the Need for Approval and Loving Who You Are boundaries effective communication people pleasing May 23, 2024

In a world where we often seek validation from others to feel good about ourselves, the journey towards self-acceptance and releasing the need for approval is crucial. How usually do we rely on others to affirm our worthiness, measuring our value by external standards? 

The quest for...

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A Guide to Setting Boundaries boundaries people pleasing self-improvement May 22, 2024

I'm excited to share insights on a topic that's made a big difference in my life: setting boundaries. In a deep-dive conversation, I sat down with Melissa Wolak, an expert in boundary-setting.

Melissa highlighted that boundaries aren't just about saying nothey're a big yes to...

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Holding a Grudge vs Setting Boundaries boundaries effective communication emotional health perspective Apr 07, 2024

Recently, the teenage daughter of a client of mine accused her mother of holding a grudge against her grandmother (my client’s mother). My client had a difficult relationship with her mother and had, over the course of her therapy with me, set up various rules she enforced frequently...

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How do I get my husband to change? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication perspective relationship advice relationship tips Jun 29, 2023

Dear Julie, My husband and I have been married for 7 years and there are several things he does that drive me crazy. I've tried talking to him about what I need him to do differently, but he won't change and I don't understand why. Can you help me understanding my husband and why he won't change?...

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