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While the term “ghosting” has only been around since about the early 2000s, the act of ghosting (cutting off contact without warning) has been around much longer. By now most people have either had an experience of being ghosted or know someone who has. Whether it was you or a friend, the pain of be...
Remember when you first met someone and you felt that spark? The two of you would find ways to spend time together, and it was FUN.
If you stayed in the relationship, however, the fun slowly faded. Even in a secure relationship, too much routine can make a long-term relationship feel boring, almost...
I confess...I'm a self-help junkie. Not something most psychologists are into, surprisingly, but here I am. I read my first self-help book in grade school. I had a hard time understanding it (I was about 11 🤣), but I wanted to learn more about how to talk to people because I was so shy. I could see ...
Dear Dr. Julie: I haven't spoken to my best friend in a couple of years because before she was married she slept with my boyfriend. I haven't spoken to either of them since I found out. I miss my best friend and I want to be friends with her again but I can't forgive her for what she did. How do I f...
Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me and lets me be chased. How ...
Have you ever wondered how to navigate the complexities of long-term relationships? In my latest video, I had the pleasure of speaking with Corinne Farago, a relationship and intimacy coach and author of The Turned On Couple: Your Path to Lasting Love, Passion, and Pleasure. Our conversation offered...
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