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Is my boyfriend really committed to me? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication healthy relationships relationship advice Apr 20, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while. He and I have agreed to be exclusive but I can't tell how committed he is to the relationship. Sometimes I don't hear from him for a day and he often makes plans with his friends without checking in...

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What to do if your feelings upset your partner ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication emotional health healthy relationships life lessons perspective relationship advice relationship tips toxic relationships Apr 13, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie, I feel like every time I try to express my feelings to my partner, he becomes defensive or shuts down, which makes me feel unheard and invalidated. I love him and want to build a strong and healthy relationship, but I'm unsure how to approach this situation. Do you have any advice...

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New Year's Resolutions: Make them easier with these tips boundaries emotional health life lessons self-improvement Jan 01, 2022

 

For those of us who make New Year's Resolutions, we are connecting with a sense of hope that things can be different. It's part acknowledgement that things could be better and hope that we can engineer that improvement in our lives. Really, the hopefulness we feel is a love affair with the...

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Handling Holiday Stress 💥 If You Are A People Pleaser boundaries emotional health perspective self-improvement Dec 01, 2021

Holidays are a magical time of year AND an incredibly stressful time of year. Many of us look forward to our family traditions, holiday parties, decorating, and gift giving. But, in order to do all these things, we feel like we have to squeeze them into our normally hectic, busy schedules AND get...

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Lying and Truth Telling for Effective Communication Guide boundaries relationships self-improvement Dec 17, 2020

What lying is and how to tell the truth

Connie could tell something was wrong. Her boyfriend of 5 years seemed more distant but denied anything was going on. When she asked what was wrong, he said everything was fine. Then one day she found a stack of papers he had left out on the counter. The...

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Does He* Know He’s Hurting Me? boundaries life lessons relationships Nov 06, 2020

I hear this question a lot from clients and on social media and my answer is not what you’d expect. Here’s how I think about it.

The questioner is in a relationship with someone who repeatedly violates boundaries and treats her in highly disrespectful ways. Treatment could be anything...

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