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How do I tell my husband he needs therapy? ama ask me anything effective communication healthy relationships marriage relationship tips relationships Jul 27, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband continually forgets things we have agreed on, has little motivation for doing household chores (but is totally happy to go do something impulsive that seems like fun for him), and can't seem to take my feelings into account before doing something he knows will upset me. I'...

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I'm repeating old patterns in my new relationship ama ask me anything effective communication marriage perspective self-improvement Jul 13, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: I was in a bad marriage for 20 years and it seems to have taken it's toll on me. My ex-husband often made me responsible for anticipating his needs and making things easier for him. At the time I thought I was just a bad wife. But post-divorce (and a lot of therapy), I see that I was...

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I'm taking my work stress out on my husband. How do I stop? ask me anything effective communication marriage perspective relationship advice toxic relationships Jul 06, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My boss drives me crazy and when I get home from work I find that I take it out on my husband. I'm cranky with him and he doesn't deserve to be treated that way. What can I do?

--Unintentionally Cranky

Dear Unintentionally Cranky: I think we've all been in this situation! Our exter...

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What Makes a Relationship Healthy? healthy relationships life lessons marriage relationship advice relationship tips relationships self-improvement Jul 01, 2023

Are you in a healthy, happy relationship? It can be hard to tell from day to day as we go through life. What may seem small and insignificant every other day could build up into a huge issue after some time – this is why it's so important to stay vigilant about your relationships and ensure they're ...

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What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? effective communication emotional health marriage perspective relationship advice relationship tips self-improvement Jun 24, 2023

When it comes to relationships, there's no one-size-fits-all advice that applies to everyone. But when deciding whether or not to pursue a relationship, it can be helpful to consider what makes up a healthy union. Navigating love and commitment isn't always easy — but understanding the components of...

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How do I get my husband to do tasks without nagging him? ama ask me anything effective communication marriage relationship tips relationships self-improvement Jun 22, 2023

Hi Dr. Julie, My husband has ADHD and I try very hard not to parent him when he doesn’t complete a task or completes it so quickly that he isn’t thorough. I often will go back and complete it myself, but then I feel resentful.

I have committed to not nagging him about these things as it doesn’t fe...

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