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Why We Always Want the End of the Story (Even If We Have to Make It Up) ask me anything emotion regulation relationship tips self-improvement self-worth Jun 15, 2025

We all love a good ending.

Not just in obvious stories, like books and movies, but in everywhere in life: in relationships, in arguments, and in the stories we tell ourselves. We want the dots connected, the characters explained, and the lose ends tied up. And, it's a bonus if the story ends in a w...

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Are You a Priority or an Option? How to Tell the Difference. ask me anything effective communication self-worth toxic relationships Feb 09, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie: I caught feelings for a guy. I’m in America, and he’s in Africa. He says there’s no rush for a relationship. At first, I thought we were dating, but him saying that is confusing.

Now I’m at a point where I feel kinda foolish, like he had a change of heart and I was never his type fr...

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8 Signs You're Being Manipulated and How to Stop It! authenticity boundaries emotion regulation self-worth Nov 13, 2024

Have you ever had a conversation that left you feeling confused, guilty, or even questioning your own memory? Sometimes, people use certain behaviors to influence others in ways that might not be very honest or healthy. Recognizing these signs can help you protect your feelings, set boundaries, and ...

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Break Free From Toxic Relationships Cycles and Find Healthy Love ama ask me anything healthy relationships relationship advice relationship tips self-worth toxic relationships Nov 10, 2024

Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me and lets me be chased. How ...

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Are You More Vulnerable to Manipulation Than You Think? Here’s What to Watch For authenticity people-pleasers self-improvement self-worth Nov 06, 2024

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a sinking feeling, like something wasn’t right? Maybe you felt taken advantage of or manipulated but couldn't pinpoint why. This feeling can hit especially hard if you tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, trust easily, or avoid conflict. If...

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What is an Inner Critic? authenticity people pleasing self-improvement self-worth Aug 31, 2024

The inner critic—those persistent, nagging thoughts that tell you "you're not good enough," "this is all your fault," or "you’ll never succeed"—isn’t a voice you were born with. Instead, it develops over time, often rooted in the experiences and environments we grow up in.

Where Does Your Inner Cri...

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