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What to do if your feelings upset your partner ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication emotional health healthy relationships life lessons perspective relationship advice relationship tips toxic relationships Apr 13, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie, I feel like every time I try to express my feelings to my partner, he becomes defensive or shuts down, which makes me feel unheard and invalidated. I love him and want to build a strong and healthy relationship, but I'm unsure how to approach this situation. Do you have any advice...

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Do you know your partner's love language? emotional health life lessons relationships Nov 12, 2022

We all express and receive love in different ways, and those variations may be the reason why sometimes feelings and good intentions are misunderstood.

For instance, you might spend weeks searching for the most incredible gift for your partner, only to hear them say on their birthday, "I would've...

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New Year's Resolutions: Make them easier with these tips boundaries emotional health life lessons self-improvement Jan 01, 2022

 

For those of us who make New Year's Resolutions, we are connecting with a sense of hope that things can be different. It's part acknowledgement that things could be better and hope that we can engineer that improvement in our lives. Really, the hopefulness we feel is a love affair with the...

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Does He* Know Heā€™s Hurting Me? boundaries life lessons relationships Nov 06, 2020

I hear this question a lot from clients and on social media and my answer is not what you’d expect. Here’s how I think about it.

The questioner is in a relationship with someone who repeatedly violates boundaries and treats her in highly disrespectful ways. Treatment could be anything...

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The one thing that can break the ice after a fight life lessons relationships Sep 16, 2020

Have you ever been arguing with your partner or family member and realized you didn’t want to be fighting? You wanted to stop but you didn’t know how to get your point across without continuing the fight?

We’ve all be there and it feels like being caught in quicksand. The more...

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Four Life Lessons From My Dog life lessons perspective self-improvement Aug 22, 2020

Meet my German Shepherd, Echo. He’s loyal and bonded to me. He is also protective and shows good judgment about other people. His favorite activity is to catch or fetch balls I throw for him. He does it like it’s his job — with intensity and passion. Echo sets a good example for...

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