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In a Long-Distance Relationship is Sex With Others Okay? ama ask me anything healthy relationships perspective relationship advice relationship tips relationships Aug 10, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My significant other and I live 2 hours away and are able to see each about twice a month. However because we aren’t in the same city he thinks it’s okay for him to go out & have sex with somebody else (he goes to “providers”). He thinks...

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How do we fix our boring marriage? ama ask me anything healthy relationships marriage relationship tips self-improvement Aug 03, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband and I have been married for a while and it's starting to feel a bit boring. We are losing our spark. How can we fix this boring marriage?

--Losing Our Spark

Dear Losing Our Spark: Anything you do repeatedly is going to start to feel boring after a while. That's...

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How do I tell my husband he needs therapy? ama ask me anything effective communication healthy relationships marriage relationship tips relationships Jul 27, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband continually forgets things we have agreed on, has little motivation for doing household chores (but is totally happy to go do something impulsive that seems like fun for him), and can't seem to take my feelings into account before doing something he knows will upset me....

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I'm repeating old patterns in my new relationship ama ask me anything effective communication marriage perspective self-improvement Jul 13, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: I was in a bad marriage for 20 years and it seems to have taken it's toll on me. My ex-husband often made me responsible for anticipating his needs and making things easier for him. At the time I thought I was just a bad wife. But post-divorce (and a lot of therapy), I see...

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I'm taking my work stress out on my husband. How do I stop? ask me anything effective communication marriage perspective relationship advice toxic relationships Jul 06, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My boss drives me crazy and when I get home from work I find that I take it out on my husband. I'm cranky with him and he doesn't deserve to be treated that way. What can I do?

--Unintentionally Cranky

Dear Unintentionally Cranky: I think we've all been in this situation! Our...

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How do I get my husband to change? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication perspective relationship advice relationship tips Jun 29, 2023

Dear Julie, My husband and I have been married for 7 years and there are several things he does that drive me crazy. I've tried talking to him about what I need him to do differently, but he won't change and I don't understand why. Can you help me understanding my husband and why he won't change?...

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