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Are you someone who consistently prioritizes others' needs over your own, finding it challenging to strike a balance? If so, you might be caught in the classic dilemma of a people pleaser.
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A Different Kind of Coach

Hi, I’m Dr. Julie, or just Julie to you. I’m not your usual coach. I’ve practiced as a clinical psychologist for over 15 years helping hundreds of people live happier, healthier lives. Not only do I have an advanced degree and a great track record of helping people, but I’ve also been to the school of hard knocks.

Just like you and the problem that got you to here, I’ve been there. With all that background and experience I’ve developed a unique combination of tools and methods to help even if change feels impossible.

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"I highly recommend her. Julie understands how people work, from the brain to emotion and behavior, in isolation and in relationships. Her advice is practical, grounded and doable. With over a decade advising people from all walks of life, she has a depth of knowledge that is hard to find in your typical advisor or life coach. She is also excellent at targeting and breaking down a person’s unconscious barriers hindering people from obtaining their goals."

Stuart Silberman, Psy.D.

"I just can't recommend Julie enough, not only did my depth, quality and experience of sleep measurably and discernibly improve, so did my clarity and speed of thought, my ability to prioritize tasks, even my seasonal allergies improved. If you are thinking about trying neurofeedback, DO IT. It was one of the best decisions of my life. Julie herself is such a treat to work with, I miss our sessions! Thank you for making my life better Julie!"


"I wholeheartedly recommend Julie Shafer if you’re looking to get your priorities straight and your life on track. Her insights and plain speaking will help you quickly clear out the underbrush of confusion and obstacles, let you see the landscape of your life’s purpose and how best to traverse it to achieve your goals. She is attentive, focused, a true active listener. Her background as a psychotherapist allows her insights not found in your typical “life coach”. But it’s not all serious and dry, you’ll laugh a lot, her charm and wit help make the work of self-examination and goal setting so much easier."

John Mekrut

"I've worked with Julie Shafer for several years. During this time she's helped me through some very stressful transitions in my life and work, and I don't know how I would have made it through without her. Julie is so professional, and so accomplished. She's able to pull apart every situation and help me see what my options are, all with patience, compassion, and good humor. Now, looking back, I can see the choices that I might have made were it not for her gentle and wise assistance, and they are not as good as the ones I've made. I recommend her most highly."


"As a frazzled small business owner, I struggle with stress, sleep, and severe headaches. Comes with the job. But, wow, at some point those headaches were getting worse and more frequent. Something had to change. But I didn’t want to dive into prescription medications, and health-ify-ing my lifestyle (diet, exercise) was helping but not enough. So I visited Julie, skeptically I’ll admit, to try a few months of neuro-feedback sessions and coaching. Julie’s focus on and expertise with small business owners was invaluable. She already understood the pressures I was under, my crazy schedule, and related symptoms I was having that it hadn’t even occurred to me to mention. It was an immediately reassuring – and a time saver! By the end of the treatment I hadn’t had a bad headache in something like 3 months – unprecedented for me. I was also having fewer nightmares and generally sleeping more soundly. As a data-driven, proof-is-in-the-pudding sort of person… that’s pretty impressive. I’d definitely encourage people with symptoms similar to mine to consider visiting Julie."

Emily Williams, Owner of Twisted Yarn Shop

"Reaching out for help can often be a humbling experience. Dr. Julie Shafer not only provided me with respect, but also coached me to a level of confidence that went beyond my own problems. I am now successfully able to pass that knowledge on to others in the same valuable and respectful way, and would not have been possible without the amazing amount of care, and valuable insight provided by Dr. Shafer. I now have the tools necessary to manage whatever life may bring, as well as wisdom that I now have the strength and confidence to share with others. I could not be more pleased."


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