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Authentic Connections, Boundaries, and Relationships
Getting caught up in trying to be who others want you to be is easy. But deep down, being genuine is how to feel truly fulfilled. I want to share some insights on what it means to live authentically, overcome challenges, and take real steps just to be you while staying true to your core beliefs.
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As a psychologist, I often work with clients struggling in their relationships because of their habits of people-pleasing. This behavior, while well-intentioned, can actually do more harm than good in your relationships and personal well-being.
Most people I work with didn't...
As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk...
As you work on changing your people-pleasing habit, a lot is going to change with you and your relationships. Most of it is going to be surprisingly good, because the catastrophes you assume will happen, won’t happen. However, some of what will happen will be hard to cope with. Let’s...
When it comes to relationships, there's often a tricky balance - taking care of your needs versus being there for your partner. How much self-care is too much? At what point does it cross into selfishness that could harm the relationship?
Why Selfishness Hurts Relationships
Selfish...
You can feel it deep inside. There is something missing but you don’t quite know what it is.
You might feel scared that your friends or partner don’t really care about you.
You might feel under (nearly) constant threat of making them mad or even leaving you.
Or maybe the...
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